When Holiday Visits Reveal Changes in Memory


Hi Friend,

The holidays are a time for connection and gratitude, but they can also bring surprises. For families who haven’t seen each other in months, spending time together may reveal changes in a loved one’s memory, mood, or behavior that weren’t obvious before.

Family Gatherings Can Reveal Subtle Changes

You might notice a loved one repeating stories, forgetting familiar names, struggling to follow conversations, or seeming more withdrawn. These moments may be early clues that something might be changing in their cognition or health.

What to Do if You Notice Memory Changes

If you spot concerning signs, stay calm and observant. Avoid calling attention to mistakes or confronting your loved one during a busy family gathering. Instead, make a plan to talk privately after the event.

There are several kinds of cognitive tests that clinicians may use to assess memory and thinking skills, ranging from short screening tools to more comprehensive neuropsychological evaluations.

Three common tests (not a comprehensive list):

  1. Self-Administered Gerocognitive Exam (SAGE) evaluates your thinking abilities and helps physicians to know how well your brain is working.
  2. The Mini-Mental State Examination (MMSE) is a screening tool that tests five areas of cognitive function.
  3. Montreal Cognitive Assessment (MoCA) assesses areas like attention, memory, and language.

We are working on creating a comprehensive list of cognitive assessment tools, but it's not ready yet. We wanted to get this information out to you before the holidays kick into full swing.

In our research, we found a memory test you can take online through MindCrowd. It's humbling to say the least. :)

Best,

Amie and Chris


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